While very few people look in the mirror when they fail to reach their weight loss goals, even fewer recognize the true source of their failure – their goals. The way you go about setting and achieving your weight loss goals will make or break your success.
The most common goal-related problems fall into one of six categories. Read below to figure out which of these goal-destroying habits have kept you from success in the past:
- You Set an Unreachable Goal
You’ve probably heard that if you want to succeed, then you need to shoot for the stars. After all, shoot for the stars and you’re bound to at least hit the moon, right?
You might justify your unreachable goals by saying that you want to be challenged. You might believe that a big, out-of-this-world goal will motivate you to succeed.
Unfortunately, goals are only motivational if you genuinely believe that they’re achievable.
By setting goals that you know deep down are impossible to achieve, you’re inviting stress, discouragement, and doubt into your life. You’re practically laying down a welcome mat for subconscious blocks in your mind.
- You Focused the Negative Part of Your Goal
“I don’t want to be lazy.”(wrong)…”I take consistent action towards my desires” (correct).
“I don’t want to be fat.” (wrong)… “I am slim” (correct).
Above are examples of incorrectly setting your desire on the negative part of your goal, and then the correct example of focusing on the positive aspect of your goal.
The most effective goals are the ones that push you to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. If you only focus on what you don’t want, then you’re subconsciously inviting that into your life.
So set your goals in a way that focuses on what you want, not what you don’t want.
- You Blamed Others for Your Failure
Our natural reaction to failure is irresponsibility.
And hey, I get it! Looking in the mirror is tough. Admitting that you’re solely responsible for where you are in life takes guts.
But, guess what?
It’s like your kindergarten teacher used to say—every time you point your finger at someone else, you point three fingers back at yourself. Avoiding responsibility won’t make your life any better—it only prolongs your suffering.
Take 100% responsibility for achieving your own goals.
- You Made a Habit of Procrastination
Procrastination in our society borders on an epidemic. Everyone procrastinates.
At least, everyone around you procrastinates, right?
While procrastination is a pervasive and persistent problem, it has a very simple solution. After all, the opposite of procrastination is action. Nothing complicated about that. So, if you want to stop procrastinating, start taking action.
It should be that easy, right?
But, what many people miss is that you can’t just take action once. You have to build a habit of taking action. Trust me, once you cross that action-threshold for the first time, it gets easier and easier every time thereafter. Set small targets, take baby steps and build the action habit.
Perfectionism is one of the main reasons people procrastinate. Perfectionists do this because they do not want to take any action until every single detail of their plan is laid out in front of them. The truth is you do not have to see the entire journey before starting, just jump NOW…everything will unfold for you when you start taking action towards your goal.
The bottom line is a good plan violently executed now is better than the perfect plan executed next week.
- You Had No Vision
Everything is created twice, first in your mind and then in your physical world. Maybe you didn’t allow yourself to experience your success ahead of time in the past.
Sure, maybe you wrote down your goals. Maybe you even kept them somewhere visible. But if you didn’t take time to meditate on the positive feelings of your future success, then all is for naught.
We all know that our goals should motivate us. What most people miss is that visualization – living out your goal in your mind’s eye – is an essential step to creating that motivation. Visualization is how you feel good about your goal. Which brings us nicely to…
- You Didn’t Feel Good About Your Goal
Maybe you doubted your ability to achieve your goal, which makes you feel bad.
Maybe you are not in alignment with your goal, which makes you feel bad.
Maybe you are thinking about your goal but you are focusing on the lack of it, focusing on having not achieved it yet. That makes you feel bad.
Either way, how you feel has a deep effect on your success and productivity. Unfortunately, many people fail because they believe there’s no way to control their feelings. (You will learn how to deal with this through Emotional Releasing).
If this describes you, then your life probably feels sporadic. Bipolar. Unpredictable. You probably feel like you have no control over your life’s direction, like nothing ever goes as planned.
Remember earlier when we were talking about subconscious blocks? Well, this is one of the chief goal-destroying habits that will create them. Conversely, learning how to feel good about your goals is one of the best ways to move towards removing them.